Sabotage ourselves? Psychology Today notes that it’s not uncommon for people to sabotage their own efforts and well-being. Many of us are unaware that we even do it. There are many reasons for this, but it invariably goes back to false beliefs that our well-meaning parents and teachers have instilled within us about ourselves. Ultimately, we come to accept these as the way it is. People also self-sabotage by failing to take care of themselves.

Fortunately, it is possible to improve our lives in numerous ways, including changing our focus, increasing our physical activity, and feeding our bodies and minds differently.  Here are some suggestions from GymCreature that can get you started on a new, more positive path.

1. What is Your Joy?

Early mental health pioneer Carl Jung pointed out that what you resist persists. Many self-help gurus also tell us that what we focus on turns into more.  What are you fighting against? What are you paying the most attention to? The answers to these questions will help you understand what is bringing you down into a lower emotional state.  So if you are giving most of your attention to what is going wrong in the world and your own life, that is what you create.

The solution is deceptively simple; just turn away from what is upsetting you and shift it toward what pleases you. Even if you are in a negative situation, it’s always possible to find something positive or useful about the experience. If nothing else, it can clarify what it is you do and do not want in your life.

2. Job Getting You Down?

Being in an unsatisfying career is a common way in which people sabotage themselves. Yet, for many, the familiar is better than the unknown, even if it is unsatisfying. Others limit their own aspirations. When seeking a new career, don’t limit yourself, and work through your fears and discomfort. That way, you’ll have small successes that you can build on.

You may also have to dust off your resume. Update your resume with your latest accomplishments, skills, and experience to get the attention of hiring managers.

3. Eating Right?

Those who raised us often admonished us to eat our vegetables. It’s still good advice; most people are surprised at the impact diet can have on our mental and emotional health as well as physical. Excess sugar and junk food can affect mood as well as lead to weight gain, which can further erode self-confidence. 

Consider a plant-based diet, or at least eliminate sugar and red meat. You can also prevent overeating by reducing plate sizes and drinking more water throughout the day. You’ll feel better and enjoy clearer thinking.

4. Got Envy?

Comparison is the thief of joy. As the Desiderata says, by comparing yourself to others, you may become vain or bitter. In the end, the only person you need to compare yourself or compete with is you.  Focus on being your authentic self, and the right people will begin to come into your life. You’re also likely to see opportunities that were not visible before.

Self-improvement is an ongoing process, and it is doubtful that you will see results overnight. By changing focus, taking care of your body and mind, and avoiding false comparisons with others, you will be well on the road to seeing remarkable improvements in your life.